Don't Do This If You Want
Your Ex Back

Picture this: you’re told to go radio silent and vanish like Houdini to make your ex miss you. Ah, the No Contact Rule. Sounds genius, right? Except it often backfires spectacularly. Instead of triggering a wave of longing, it might just remind them how peaceful life is without your texts and complaints. They move on, thinking you’ve done the same. Meanwhile, you're stuck counting the days, hoping for a reunion that may never come. Sometimes, silence isn't golden—it's just silent.
Every situation is different, and for about 20% of cases No Contact Rule would do miracles. Are you in this group? Who knows. I know one thing that works for everyone though. A force of habit. Your ex is used to do certain things with you, so be there to exploit it to your advantage.

Ah, the grand gesture—swooping in with flowers, a serenade, or a skywriter spelling out "I love you." It sounds like a scene from a rom-com, right? But in reality, these over-the-top moves can come off as desperate or overwhelming. Instead of rekindling romance, you might just end up with an ex feeling pressured or uncomfortable.

So, what should you do instead? Focus on small, meaningful actions that show genuine care and effort. Rebuild the connection gradually with honest communication and thoughtful gestures that demonstrate real change and growth. The issue between you two was never a lack of flowers, was it? Remember all the small things she was struggling with every day and you did nothing about. Fixing those is the true magic key to her heart.

Trying to reconnect as friends after a breakup—sounds harmless, right? Think again. This can often trap you in the dreaded friend zone, where your romantic hopes get sidelined, and you end up being the shoulder they cry on while they move on. Instead of rekindling the romance, you might just reinforce the end of it.

What’s a better strategy? Give yourself some space to heal and reflect. Fill it with the things you've always wanted to do, be social, but don't disappear on her entirely. I find it the best when they can see you, but can't talk to you - go to the same social gatherings as your ex, say hi and bye, but don't engage in a meaningful conversation.

Relying on a friend to mediate your attempts to get back with your ex—sounds like a clever strategy, right? I'd rather jump on a ticking bomb. First of all - you can never know your friend's agenda. It might seem innocent, but you can never be completely sure. Second - even best friends don't know everything that happens inside your relationship. They might think they're helping while making it worse. Third - want a broken phone situation? No? Forget about using her friend's help then

A better approach? Take matters into your own hands. Work with a specialist if you must, but only to get all the information from your head, because I'm telling you - it's already there.

Sounds like a foolproof plan to pique your ex's interest, right? Unfortunately, it often just leads to confusion and frustration. If she's showing you interest after the break up - go for it with no expectations. Don't kill passion with overthinking and an emotional avalanche.